
It is most difficult to show the world that your slip is showing.
What does this mean, "Your slip is showing?" I was first introduced to this idea in the RAY CHARLES movie in 2004. It is a point in his life when his heroin addiction was getting in the way of his craft, his best self and his work. His manager comes to him and says Ray, "Your slip is showing." I have never forgotten it. My friends, may I ask, "Is your slip showing?" If it is, may I suggest that you take this time to get real. Really real about you. Here is why. If you don't then your slip will begin to define you, and who wants to be defined by something being covered up? Fix your slip, make sure your essentials are being taken care of.
Fix your slip now and begin again to reveal yourself.
What follows is a blue print of ideas to living your life authentically. Until you want to reveal that slip, it will be yours to conceal, yours to reveal on your terms. Here's to creating a more authentic life.
Here are five ways to get started:
Polly Campbell is a professional speaker and the author of Imperfect
Spirituality: Extraordinary Enlightenment for Ordinary People and
How to Reach Enlightenment. She is also a blogger at imperfectspirituality.com, The Huffington Post and Psychology Today.
1. Redefine your values. It’s hard to behave in an authentic way if you do not know what you value and desire. Often, we hold tight to the same values we grew up with, when we need to reevaluate what feels right to us now and align our actions around those things. Get clear on what you care about and authenticity will take hold.
2. Foster an open mind. Authenticity flourishes when we experience the world wholly, from every perspective. Rigid, good/bad thinking keeps us trapped in judgment and limitation, which causes us to shut down our vulnerable, authentic self. Challenge yourself to look at all sides of the situation. Be open.
3. Fill in the blank: If you really knew me you’d know this:
___________. This is a prompt Robbins gives to seminar participants.
Not only does it prompt introspection and allow people to reveal essential
aspects of themselves, it also builds trust, credibility and confidence with the
person you are sharing it with. Authenticity does sometimes feel scary and
vulnerable, but it also builds intimacy.
4. Notice when you are being inauthentic. Robbins suggests that you pay attention to those times when you are insincere in your speech, or when you are acting in a way that doesn’t align with your core values. Then explore the fears and beliefs that may create those barriers to your authenticity.
5. Trust your intuition. Often, we feel out of sync when we are acting inauthentic. Things just don’t feel right. Pay attention to those hunches, physical sensations and impressions. They can be your instincts telling you that you are not being genuine. When you are on track and authentic, you’ll feel that too.
I felt at ease and in flow when I left public relations behind a year later
to write full-time. Finally, I was truly myself. Authentic. And, while the
writing business has blossomed, I’m still learning how to live authentically
even 20 years later. That journey is ever-shifting as I learn more about
myself.
“Who we are evolves and changes,” Robbins says. “This is a dynamic process and one we can keep moving into at deeper levels. Feel that, pay attention to that. This is less about a destination than a journey of going deeper to keep discovering and unfolding new pieces of ourselves as we go.”
Here's to creating a more authentic life.
Paul declares that he speaks with sincerity! 2 Corinthians
What a great word for those of us who would live authentic Christian lives. There is no pretense, nothing hidden in Paul’s life. The NT was first written in Greek and the word translated sincerity is a word that speaks of being free of
contaminants, of being crystal clear! One quality of the authentic Christian
life is transparency. Secure in Christ and honest with himself and his world,
the authentic Christian can allow scrutiny of his words, his actions, even his
motives.
I want my life to be transparent and open, don’t you? May the Lord help us to
live in such a way that we keep no secrets that, if exposed, would destroy our
integrity. Jesus urges us to live in this way, too. He says, “Let your yes
stand on its own without a need to take a oath of truthfulness. Mean what you say and say what you mean!”