The older we get that cheer squad shows up less and less. Perhaps we have forgotten how it once felt to hear words of adulation, so we stop sharing them too. No matter where our support comes from, we must also be completely okay with cheering on ourselves.
BE YOUR OWN CHEERLEADER BY MIKE ROBBINS
In other words, when we wait for other people, the accomplishment of specific goals or the manifestation of ideal circumstances to create the excitement, joy and inspiration for our lives, we give away our personal power and live in an insatiable way. Cheering for ourselves with passion, and with a true sense of love and appreciation is not arrogant, it's actually required if we're going to live a life of fulfillment, gratitude, and meaning.
Arrogance is based on fear and insecurity. Whenever I catch myself doing or saying anything arrogant (which I do on a pretty regular basis) it's because I'm feeling insecure, wanting someone to like me or be impressed with me, or trying to compensate for some perceived "lack" within or about myself. There's nothing "evil" about us being arrogant, it's just not all that much fun for us or others -- and living our life from a place of arrogance can cause a great deal of pain, suffering and hurt for ourselves and those around us.
Authentic self appreciation is about loving, valuing and honoring ourselves, our gifts and all of who we are -- both light and dark. The words, thoughts, and feelings may seem similar to arrogance; however, they're not. Energetically, self appreciation comes from a very different place within us than arrogance does. The more we practice loving and appreciating ourselves, the easier it is for us to tell the difference.
Here is a list of some things you can do to practice loving, appreciating, and cheering for yourself in an authentic and powerful way:
- Speak about yourself positively
- When someone compliments you, breathe, let it in and say "thank you" (don't discount it)
- Say affirmations to yourself in the mirror, and use your first name (i.e. "I love you, Mike")
- Write down things you appreciate about yourself in your journal on a regular basis
- Send yourself an email or card of appreciation -- from you, to you
- Buy yourself flowers or some token of appreciation that makes you feel good
- Ask for the acknowledgment you'd like
- Make requests of others (remember that you don't have to do it all yourself)
- Take time for yourself and by yourself
- Celebrate your successes (big and small) and pat yourself on the back regularly
- I say cheer on. Celebrate! Rejoice! Share your talents. Be thankful.