I remember when I applied to Harvard Business School. My boss at the time told me to prepare myself for when I do not get in because not even he could get in. After I turned in my application, I allowed his 49% to win in my head making it my 49%, so much so, I never really believed it would happen. I even began talking like it couldn't happen. But why not? I had a strong academic record, strong community service, great leadership track record, all the qualities HBS looked for at its institution. Why not me? Well not me, because I refused at the time to put my 51% ahead of my 49%.
The day I graduated from Harvard, I promised myself that never again would I sell myself low. And never again would I allow someone else to dictate what happened in the space of my 49%. Now it is your turn. STOP IT!
I ran into this boss years later on a NYC subway train. He remembered me. He asked how I was doing. My 51% told him I was doing just fine, working at the best marketing company in the world along with many other Harvard Business School graduates that I have met along the way. I saw his 49% creep out in his facial expression. I exited the train and walked off with my 51% in my head.