When your your family comes first then your kids must come second. This is a hard pill to swallow for many, especially moms. I was one of them. For years I put my kids even before myself. I poured everything into them to the point of total exhaustion. To the point of having little else to give. And one thing for sure, not once did I hear my kids say slow down mom, take some time for you, spend some time with dad. No young kids aren't wired that way. Nor should they be. It is the parents responsibility to know the end game. To know what needs to be done at every inning along the way to get the family as a whole and intact across the finish line. Often this falls to women because we are the ones who can throw things quickly out of balance. Trust me this I know. And before long, we look up and what we find is beautiful bright children and a spouse that if we are lucky, we can try to get to know all over again. This is not the bible way.
I take an annual vacation alone with my husband, usually in the summer. We have been doing this for nearly 15 years. I have had my friends ask, what about the kids? I could never do that. My response, what about the kids?
It is about the kids that women work so hard at making marriage work. It is about the kids that women pour so much into our men even when we have so little at the end of the day to pour. It is about the kids that we bite our bottom lip, work that second job, volunteer that third time, learn to sew, bake, ski, and bowl.
It is about the kids that we say, shut the door mommy and daddy are talking (wink, wink). It is for our children that we love so hard for so long and refuse to give up. It is the reason we don't break bonds. My mother used to say, "it is easier to lose something than to find it."
So what about the kids? Kids are a gift from God. A gift that is shared with us after our first love for our spouse. The earlier we realize this the stronger and more unified the family unit. The more love we show our spouse the more collective love we carry forth to our children.
I take an annual vacation alone with my husband, usually in the summer. We have been doing this for nearly 15 years. I have had my friends ask, what about the kids? I could never do that. My response, what about the kids?
It is about the kids that women work so hard at making marriage work. It is about the kids that women pour so much into our men even when we have so little at the end of the day to pour. It is about the kids that we bite our bottom lip, work that second job, volunteer that third time, learn to sew, bake, ski, and bowl.
It is about the kids that we say, shut the door mommy and daddy are talking (wink, wink). It is for our children that we love so hard for so long and refuse to give up. It is the reason we don't break bonds. My mother used to say, "it is easier to lose something than to find it."
So what about the kids? Kids are a gift from God. A gift that is shared with us after our first love for our spouse. The earlier we realize this the stronger and more unified the family unit. The more love we show our spouse the more collective love we carry forth to our children.
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