Words spoken in haste are usually more about the person who spoke them than you. They say the words and are blissfully unaware of how their words may have the power to hurt others. These days people are less likely to think about others before they spout off because they are SELF focused. It's all about the DRAMA. It's over, we are no longer friends etc.... it's all about the winning an upper hand in any kind of relationship, being the dumper rather than the dumpee.... and REAL life should be so much more than that, the quality of our very close relationships depends on it. Joan
Words have such power. I try my best to think before I speak and to not say things that I may regret but during the heat of the moment things can get out of hand sometimes and we all say things we don't mean. I think being willing to accept you made a mistake and admitting that spoke in haste is half the battle. Being willing to say "I am sorry" and meaning it is important. Rosie
Those words sprung out of your mouth before you could catch them...you regret saying those hurtful words...now the person is so hurt and devastated they do not want to be in your presence...Or you had hurtful words thrown your way...you are surprised and hurt by the person who you thought had your best interests at heart could be so cruel and inhumane. You feel like distancing yourself from the person in question because of the hurt and pain stabbing in your heart...
You can't take back those hurtful words. The person in question acts like they never said those words. Which is worse...hurtful words or actions?
You may need to assess your relationship with the person in question very carefully. Sometimes the person in question can comeback later rather than sooner remorseful but it can be too late. It is up to you and you alone to evaluate if you want this person in your life full capacity since you feel if they did this to me once what will make this time different?
If you are the alleged offender, you must do all you can to make it up to the hurt party. It may take time to make it to this person, build their trust, and in time forgiveness will come. You need to forgive yourself though as we all make mistakes. Sometimes the hurt party and you will not have the same relationship. We all must take responsibility for our actions especially our words....Amy
So what do you do when you really step in it? You own it! You fix it if you can. You do an absolute humble job of repairing the mess caused by you when you were not being your best self. You scold yourself and only yourself. You don't project your insecurities onto others. You take the time needed to reflect on your past regretted actions and wholly object to future bad behaviors of like kind.
You ask the forgiveness from the offended party and from your God in heaven. And then you exhale, forgive yourself and move forward into a new light. La Detra Joy