Nope, nadda. Women do not want to take back ANY of it. However, if you our men are willing to hear it, here is what women would like back.
More of the total infatuation you presented when we were dating. The benefit of the doubt, especially when we are trying to make a connection with you. That feeling we had when you used to call just to check in, sometimes falling asleep on the phone talking. That sparkle you displayed when we wore something new, fixed our hair a bit different. The goose bumps you tried to hide when we initiated gestures of passion or wore your bleach white T-shirt to bed.
We want back your tolerance when we aren't totally buttoned up. When we burn dinner, send the kids outside to play in their pajamas, sleep past noon or wear curlers and that comfortable ratty flannel gown to bed. When we need extra moments to get our thoughts together.
We want to know where in the relationship it went left and why by now we have not righted its course. Instead we have created a new more backwards normal.
Nope, naddah. we do not want to take back ANY of it. However, are you willing to really hear what we have been trying to say for so long? Perhaps our words or actions may have come out as testing your resolve, seeking sympathy, trying to start something or being melodramatic. But if you can give us the benefit of the doubt, then we won't have to take back anything and we just might begin to feel you have our back, again.
We are the same inside as that day you called your momma to tell her "I met the woman I am going to marry." Give us the benefit of the doubt and we just might pull out that white T-shirt with your name on it.
This blogger has been married 22 years and knows a bit about men.