I have never dreamed a dream of spending my life alone without a companion. It was interesting to me growing up that after my parents divorced, my mother never remarried, never even came close. I always thought it was her guilt for having left my dad when he was so in love with her. But as are most things, it was of course much deeper and much more complicated than that.
How I asked could she not want to be married? Women grow up to meet that prince put our spell on him and ride away on the white horse. Some women it seems grow into being okay with being without that marriage certificate. That was my mother. She lived with the same man for more than a decade, Chuck was his name. They were in love too. Best friends even. They never married. And they passed away within a year of one another. Love sick, I told myself when he died.
I wonder though was she quietly, secretly, even unknowingly holding out for something, someone better? Was she waiting for superman?
I have been married 22 years and personally have never used as weaponry the "D" word. When that word comes out to play there is no reset button. No putting that paste back in the tube as they say. That is the number two reason I won't play it. The number one reason is I have never wanted to use it. I have however had tendencies toward holding back waiting for things to change. Stubbornly and knowingly behaving unlovable for periods of time. And during this time going inside myself, waiting for superman.
Can I tell you something? This posture has completely gotten me exactly nowhere every time. I want all young women out there to know if you love him tell him. If you want him show him. If you truly want to be with him forever then never STOP being his EVER. And never leave him with the feeling that you are waiting for superman.
My mom used to tell me, "Remember a man will leave you while being completely head over heels in love with you if he feels you don't respect him." Men do not want to be made to feel that they are not good enough or enough for the woman they love. They want to be your superman.
How I asked could she not want to be married? Women grow up to meet that prince put our spell on him and ride away on the white horse. Some women it seems grow into being okay with being without that marriage certificate. That was my mother. She lived with the same man for more than a decade, Chuck was his name. They were in love too. Best friends even. They never married. And they passed away within a year of one another. Love sick, I told myself when he died.
I wonder though was she quietly, secretly, even unknowingly holding out for something, someone better? Was she waiting for superman?
I have been married 22 years and personally have never used as weaponry the "D" word. When that word comes out to play there is no reset button. No putting that paste back in the tube as they say. That is the number two reason I won't play it. The number one reason is I have never wanted to use it. I have however had tendencies toward holding back waiting for things to change. Stubbornly and knowingly behaving unlovable for periods of time. And during this time going inside myself, waiting for superman.
Can I tell you something? This posture has completely gotten me exactly nowhere every time. I want all young women out there to know if you love him tell him. If you want him show him. If you truly want to be with him forever then never STOP being his EVER. And never leave him with the feeling that you are waiting for superman.
My mom used to tell me, "Remember a man will leave you while being completely head over heels in love with you if he feels you don't respect him." Men do not want to be made to feel that they are not good enough or enough for the woman they love. They want to be your superman.
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