The plot also got me to thinking about the bride. Choose one, anyone. On that day and for many days leading up to that day she is the very center of everyone's attention. Her big day is unarguably likely the biggest single day of her existence up to that time only to be trumped by having a baby one day. Having been a bride once myself, I am thinking about twenty seven things I wish I had known and perhaps done differently prior to becoming a bride or as a new bride. Here they are in no particular order:
Twenty-seven dresses I would have worn differently:
1- I would never consider marrying an unsaved mate.
2- I would not have moved around so much just for a bigger paycheck
3- I would have tried harder to be a better younger bride.
4- I would have listened more and talked far less.
5- I would have asked for what I wanted instead of hoping he would figure it out.
6- I would have treated him the way I wanted to be treated before he treated me that way first.
7- I would have tried less to be right and tried more to come correct.
8- I would have paid more attention to the really small things and make them special.
9- I would have prayed harder especially when everything was going great.
1- I would have said I am sorry and meant it.
2- I would not have put the kids first, ever.
3- I would have learned sooner to fall under his authority.
4- I would have talked to him before taking it to the girlfriend circuit.
5- I would have sat still instead reacting to everything.
6- I would have done more of my part to fix broken things.
7- I would have prayed together.
8- I would ask him what he wanted.
9- I would have done more of what he liked to do especially sports.
1- I would laugh more.
2- I would stop doing things just to get a rise out of him.
3- I would be quiet.
4- I would say I love you more than I would say I LOVE YOU TOO.
5- I would initiate love making.
6- I would learn to change a tire.
7- I would model good behavior in front of the kids always.
8- I would brag on him more.
9- I would never forget why I married him in the first place.
Well after nearly 25 years, I am still that bride and I can count the number of times on one hand I have ever been asked to be a bridesmaid. I own a lot of dresses. My favorites are usually his favorites and when I wear them well he usually lets me know he appreciates how I look in them. It is not hard to wear a nice dress. You just have to want to look good wearing it.