All our lives women are compared to their mothers. We want to know something about our lives the first question we are asked is "what about your mother?" How tall am I going to be, when I will begin menstruation, what about menopause, am I susceptible to any genetic diseases? The answer always comes back as, "What about your mother?" If you know your mother you come close to knowing yourself. We can always learn a lot about our pathology from knowing our mom but there is so much more to learn that reaches deeper into our soul. This teaching stems from what kind of person our mother is in our lives. These lessons are the largest indicators of the type of mothers we will be or the type of mother we will not be. There are many branches on our mother's tree. We must choose which of those branches we will climb and explore and prune for our tree.
I took a lot of branches from my mother's tree. Some of these branches I swore growing up I would never take with me. Things like licking my fingers then wiping away grit on my kid's faces. I promised I would never yell at them in front of other people. I promised I would not play favorites with my kids. Well at some time or another I have done all of these. Every one of them.
The branches I could not wait to prune were; building a strong team that sticks together no matter what. Always putting my kids first over outside forces especially work. Making sure the kids know that their dad is the head of the family unit. Telling my children every day of their lives that I love them (I did not hear this from my mom that often though she showed me). Demonstrating the right moral compass. Living with integrity. Telling the truth even if it hurts. Giving God all the credit.
I don't know what kind of branches my kids are selecting from my tree but I hope and pray I am growing a solid, deep-rooted tree where they can choose from a wide selection of good and not so good.
Motherhood is not grown perfectly but it is meant to live on in the hearts of our children forever. Happy Mother's Day and happy mothering.
I took a lot of branches from my mother's tree. Some of these branches I swore growing up I would never take with me. Things like licking my fingers then wiping away grit on my kid's faces. I promised I would never yell at them in front of other people. I promised I would not play favorites with my kids. Well at some time or another I have done all of these. Every one of them.
The branches I could not wait to prune were; building a strong team that sticks together no matter what. Always putting my kids first over outside forces especially work. Making sure the kids know that their dad is the head of the family unit. Telling my children every day of their lives that I love them (I did not hear this from my mom that often though she showed me). Demonstrating the right moral compass. Living with integrity. Telling the truth even if it hurts. Giving God all the credit.
I don't know what kind of branches my kids are selecting from my tree but I hope and pray I am growing a solid, deep-rooted tree where they can choose from a wide selection of good and not so good.
Motherhood is not grown perfectly but it is meant to live on in the hearts of our children forever. Happy Mother's Day and happy mothering.
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