mole1 mōl/ noun a spy who achieves over a long period an important position within the security defenses of a country.synonyms:spy, agent, secret agent, undercover agent, operative, plant, infiltrator, sleeper, informant, informer; informalspook; archaicintelligencer "an undercover mole", sabotager
Have you ever gone about living your life and felt like not everyone in it is on your side? It's their prerogative really. We are not meant to be adored and loved or even supported by everyone we meet. There is no life script which reads all happy endings and carefree beginnings. But the problem I have is when you are hosting a mole in your circle. That mole is that person who in your gut, you know is not completely on your side. The one who you know in your spirit is not exactly cheering for you as you sleep. They want something from you and though they may not overtly snatch it away, they stay close enough to you long enough to erode your complete enjoyment of it. No one wants to think of their life or their companions in this way, but if you feel something is off, likely there is something off.
Here are two ways to minimize the power of moles in your life: But first you have to know how to spot that mole.
1- Develop clear boundaries. Examine who is in your personal space and what role they play in your life. Are they adding value? Do you have a mutually respectable relationship? Is your relationship built on building one another up? Are you both providing constructive criticism when the need arises? Are you both benefiting from the time you spend together? Are you better off with this person in your life? Do you trust this person?
2- Don't allow anyone to change your core self. Don’t allow them to identify the “right” decisions for you that will move your life forward. Moles want to see you fail. Your failure validates their failures and gives them a sense of one-up-monship. Moles will try to keep you down. They will pacify your insecurities rather than "snap you out of it." Moles will "help" right your wrongs by reshaping your decisions to benefit them, not you.
As you examine your life for moles remember this. Don't be fooled by those who say such things, for "bad company corrupts good character." 1 Corinthians 15:33
Our lives can be influenced by the friends that we have. That is why we must be able to identify who are good friends and who are bad friends.
What is a friend? It is a person who wants to be near another because of feelings of affection or personal respect.
Good friends and bad friends
Some friends can have a good influence on us whereas others can influence our lives in the wrong way – they can affect our behaviour and change our beliefs.
When God looks at our friends he doesn’t look at their personality or appearance but rather at whether they are a good influence on us.
We are cautioned to steer clear of friends who may lead us astray.
A righteous man is cautious in friendship, but the way of the wicked leads them astray. Proverbs Ch.12:26
Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character." Come back to your senses as you ought, and stop sinning; for there are some who are ignorant of God—I say this to your shame. 1 Corinthians Ch.15:33-34
As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another. A good friend has a positive impact on the other person. Proverbs Ch.27:17
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Here are two ways to minimize the power of moles in your life: But first you have to know how to spot that mole.
1- Develop clear boundaries. Examine who is in your personal space and what role they play in your life. Are they adding value? Do you have a mutually respectable relationship? Is your relationship built on building one another up? Are you both providing constructive criticism when the need arises? Are you both benefiting from the time you spend together? Are you better off with this person in your life? Do you trust this person?
2- Don't allow anyone to change your core self. Don’t allow them to identify the “right” decisions for you that will move your life forward. Moles want to see you fail. Your failure validates their failures and gives them a sense of one-up-monship. Moles will try to keep you down. They will pacify your insecurities rather than "snap you out of it." Moles will "help" right your wrongs by reshaping your decisions to benefit them, not you.
As you examine your life for moles remember this. Don't be fooled by those who say such things, for "bad company corrupts good character." 1 Corinthians 15:33
Our lives can be influenced by the friends that we have. That is why we must be able to identify who are good friends and who are bad friends.
What is a friend? It is a person who wants to be near another because of feelings of affection or personal respect.
Good friends and bad friends
Some friends can have a good influence on us whereas others can influence our lives in the wrong way – they can affect our behaviour and change our beliefs.
When God looks at our friends he doesn’t look at their personality or appearance but rather at whether they are a good influence on us.
We are cautioned to steer clear of friends who may lead us astray.
A righteous man is cautious in friendship, but the way of the wicked leads them astray. Proverbs Ch.12:26
Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character." Come back to your senses as you ought, and stop sinning; for there are some who are ignorant of God—I say this to your shame. 1 Corinthians Ch.15:33-34
As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another. A good friend has a positive impact on the other person. Proverbs Ch.27:17
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