When I think of all I know most of it can be burned in a campfire as kindling. Nobody would miss it. But there are a few things I know for sure. And these are worth knowing and sharing. Allow me to share.
The mess I have ever encountered is not worth the strength it takes to hold onto it. I have gotten my just reward by letting it go and forgetting it ever existed. This drives the messer crazy as it takes two to tango. Life and energy wasted on plotting is time taken away from planning and preparation toward things that build up not that which tears down. It is hard to walk away from mess without a fight but in the long run it is worth it, I know. What I have learned is that it is impossible to do two things well at the same time. So I choose wisely. The thing that gets the attention gets the water and will grow. I have gotten to the place in my life where "mess does not grow here." I will not allow it. I will not water it.
I study people I admire. There are a lot of them. One of the common characteristics of these people is that they have a very short fuse for nonsense. I mean nonsense of any kind. They are polite yet curt. They are decisive and non apologetic. They say what they mean and they mean what they say. When you are in their presence you know exactly what you are getting. I admire that. The thing that I admire above all else is that they are consistently living in a "mess-free" zone.
So in a nut shell, I realize now that the best don't mess. And you will know when you have come across one of these types by this. You never see them starting mess and you never see them fanning mess. These folks have a creed. And the creed says, I have no time for anything that takes me away from my quest toward excellence. And there is no mess in that message.