(I love you, I love you too.) (You look nice. You look nice too.) (How are you? All is well.) (I was just thinking about you.) (Is that outfit new?) (Let's talk about that later.) (I don't know, what do you want to do?)
I would appreciate moving beyond cliché moments and transitioning into novel encounters in love relationships. I can visualize the beauty transfer if men and women really strived for meaningful connection. What I can hear are the layers of fabric holding up the word exchange. Layers that explain or describe how and why he loves her. Is it her smile, her smell, her quiet disposition? Her soft touch, her patient spirit?
What looks nice about his appearance, specifically? How wonderful for him to hear that her attraction to him is the way he chooses the perfect three button blazer leaving him so polished and alluring in her eyes. Or how after a clean shave he always looks so young and energized. What a complete moment of levity for him to hear that his hair is perfect in her eyes, dusted with distinguished traits of graying.
I would like to see how men and women in love relationships can arrive at how to spend their most sacred time they have together, together. "I don't know, what do you want to do?", to your partner sounds like a message of being disconnected and uninterested. These are not words of togetherness and cohesion. They fall flat and lay still.
At the risk of sounding cliché, tonight I plan to pull my partner in real close, find a quiet room, burn that slow burning candle, pour that tantalizing glass of wine and begin with, "let's not talk about it later", let's start acting on it now.