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My story of the PLATE: A true story

2/28/2014

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My mom insisted from day one that any meal I prepared in my house that I..."fix his plate." No exception and no matter the circumstances. She used to say, don't ever let him eat your food unless you, "fix his plate." No matter what. And especially do it when you don't want to she echoed. "Fix 'em a plate."  Boy I wondered does she know what she is asking? Does she know what she is saying? After decades of marriage there are times I want to fix something all right but a plate is the least of it.


One day, many years later while laying across the foot of her bed, I asked, "Momma about..THE PLATE?" As if waiting for this day she simply said, "If you start out fixing it, he will not expect you to and he will always eat at home. And my daughter, there will be days "that plate" is the only thing getting fixed."


What I was missing is the plate was symbolic. What momma was really saying was fix it. Whatever it is be willing to be the first to fix it. Show him that you are willing to fix it. Sometimes fixing it was a plate of spaghetti, sometimes it is intimacy, sometimes it is mending hurt feelings, forgotten birthdays, selfish acts, and just plain not really caring. Fix 'em a plate has meant so many things.


When asked my advise for a long marriage, I often tell young brides, "Fix his plate." After our chuckle she inevitably says, "I think I get it. Fix 'em a plate."






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I truly like that. This is the greatest vittue which Jesus taught, which is the spirit of humbleness. It allows Him to make all things, Right! SMILE
2/28/2014 10:04:19 pm

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2/28/2014 10:54:08 pm

All things right always comes too in HIS time.

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Crystal Gunby
8/14/2016 07:18:21 am

I really needed to her this and the meaning behind it.

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Jae
8/2/2017 09:00:28 am

This was great advice that your Mother gave you! Thank you for sharing her wisdom!

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Jen
8/2/2017 08:05:29 pm

I like this... but I'm confused. I'm not quite sure I understand the meaning behind "always fix his plate". I do fix my husbands everyday after 16 years of marriage. Lol.

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8/2/2017 08:06:58 pm

Sex, feelings, or anything else that needs fixin

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