It is a wonderful accomplishment when one reaches the point of having uncompromised convictions. Sometimes it takes a lifetime to reach this point though I have seen people in their 20's get there sooner. This is a stage of life where you know what you need from other people and you can't settle for anything less. Your spirit simply will not allow it. It makes no room for yucky feelings or yucky people carrying yucky feelings toward you. I call these feelings "leftovers." That means being treated like you are not important, like your ideas don't matter, your feelings are inconsequential, your dreams are silly and your existence is ordinary. It means your value is someone else's leftovers. My mom used to say, "If you don't know what you will settle for, you will settle for anything." She was right too. I see it all too often with women, and sometimes men. People so manipulated, so unassured that they settle. They allow others to shape their outcomes, dictating to them their very worth. It breaks my heart every single time to see this.
I stopped being leftovers about in my mid-thirties. It was the first time I adopted a zero tolerance for yucky feelings coming from others. By the time I was in my forties I had perfected my ability to identify and wipe clean yucky people from my life. I told myself, I can do bad by myself. I do not need or desire to have anyone defining who I am. Period!
I tell young women know who you are and if you don't yet know...wait and pray. Do not fall victim to someone else's trap. Do not allow your psyche to become ensnared in anyone's personification of you. Decide early what people are telling you and what they are not showing you. Especially seek to understand their motivation behind their words and actions. The first time you begin to feel like leftovers...run and don't look back. The pain you may feel by running is nothing compared to the pain that awaited you by remaining in place.
Love yourself hard and unconditionally! Free your mind, your awesome life will follow.
I stopped being leftovers about in my mid-thirties. It was the first time I adopted a zero tolerance for yucky feelings coming from others. By the time I was in my forties I had perfected my ability to identify and wipe clean yucky people from my life. I told myself, I can do bad by myself. I do not need or desire to have anyone defining who I am. Period!
I tell young women know who you are and if you don't yet know...wait and pray. Do not fall victim to someone else's trap. Do not allow your psyche to become ensnared in anyone's personification of you. Decide early what people are telling you and what they are not showing you. Especially seek to understand their motivation behind their words and actions. The first time you begin to feel like leftovers...run and don't look back. The pain you may feel by running is nothing compared to the pain that awaited you by remaining in place.
Love yourself hard and unconditionally! Free your mind, your awesome life will follow.
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