Then we move on looking for that next whatever to placate our "yuck" that lives inside of us surviving only on:
1- I did not mean it
2- It was not my fault
3- It was only one mistake
4- Things around me caused me to act in this way
5- It wasn't that bad, everyone else is just over reacting
6- Nobody is perfect
That is until that moment when ..... there is no one else to blame.
And then something quite original happens. We wake up. We own up. We pray up!
Romans 8:1 says that there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because the Lord Jesus took all of the Father's condemnation on Himself on the cross.
So you don't have to project on someone else something God is waiting to forgive you for. Why give your forgiveness away? Own your rain and its rainbow.