Love yourself first. Define your own level of happiness as defined by you for you. Don't forget to cry. It cleanses the soul and gives clarity to the heart and to the spirit.
Decide that your love is a gift and no matter what happens, you choose to whom you give that gift and under what conditions you will allow them to unwrap your very special gift to them which is YOU. Choose happily!
My love is a gift not to be parceled.