I know what I am talking about too. When I was in college a friend's boyfriend was cheating on her. A lot of her friends knew including me. Our mutual friends cautioned me to stay way out of it. They told me if you tell her, she will be mad at him, he will be mad at you and you will be mad at yourself. Why? Because they will eventually make up, not break up and you will be left asking what the heck just happened and for what? So I have developed a few cardinal rules for meddling. I choose to call them the I WOULD NOT BE CAUGHT DEAD IN THAT unless it fits in my 10.
- I am acting from a level head and not acting from my over zealous heart.
- I can control the outcome.
- I can bring real value.
- I am helping as a God thing not as a man thing.
- I can be objective.
- My involvement is appreciated by all parties.
- I can answer the question, "Why am I really doing this?" and feel good about the answer.
- There is a real solution here.
- I am behaving in a way that I would want others to behave with me.
- I can answer, "What do I hope to gain from taking this step?", question.
Like one who grabs a stray dog by the ears is someone who rushes into a quarrel not their own.