But there is no other feeling like being hurt and disappointed, especially by someone you have invested so much in for so long. When that kind of hurt sinks into us it begins to weaken promises. This kind of hurt blurs the very oxygen we depend on to keep us honest and true. The real tragedy of our pain is, that in order to feel better, we will step out of what is very familiar and venture into the forbidden.
In the forbidden waters we are quick to make new promises. The same kind of promises we made in our more familiar setting. We draw new lines and swear to the same Almighty. We stir up oxygen and convince ourselves this had to be done. We were left without a choice. After all we did all we could in that familiar world, but even with all our efforts, we were still disappointed and hurt.
Now there is one more tragedy to come. In all our efforts, promises, lines, and oxygen, we never really feel better for long. That is because pain is pain and hurt is hurt. And rather than move further into forbidden waters, we must consider sticking our oars back into the water, turn ourselves around and go back and fix our broken promises. That is if we really want to feel better? There are two sides to every hurt and two sides to all pain. The best way to navigate pain, hurt and disappointment is to work at it together keeping all oars in familiar water.