Now 12 years later, my son wants to know and meet his birth mom. He comes to me and says....the sooner the better, something in me is missing. DO I OR DON'T I?
One of the best parts of me was added when he was 17 days old. It was 4 days before Christmas. We were going to meet our adopted son. I remember like yesterday. The night before I was shopping for the first time in nearly five years at a SUPER TARGET in the middle of the night for a car seat, onesies, diapers etc. I had just learned that a young mother had chosen via semi-private adoption our family to raise her son. I even ran into a couple of persons I knew, my size 6 self, not looking a bit pregnant....filled to the brim with newborn items, I had no time to explain. I smiled and kept on moving. I had a son to pick up the next morning and Christmas was just four days away.
Now 12 years later, my son wants to know and meet his birth mom. He comes to me and says....the sooner the better, something in me is missing. DO I OR DON'T I?
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Jay
4/3/2015 03:01:36 pm
I am an adopted child and am now 52. As an adopted child I always wanted to know about my biological parents. I was born in the 60's and adoptions were closed;no medical was provided either. I had wonderful loving parents and family and am so thankful they are my family. As a teenager I sat on a panel with other adopted children where potential adoptees asked questions about bring adopted. Bottom line is no matter how wonderful your life is or not; there c was always something missing and adopted children want to know where they came from. Hope this helps!
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Evonne Taylor
4/2/2018 07:16:30 am
My Mom was adopted. She didn’t have the resources to search for her family. She was raised by a loving couple loved them dearly. I have been looking for her. The love and bond between the two of you will never be broken or changed, but everyone is born yearning to understand their roots. It has nothing to do with his love for you and your family. He will need your love and support to explore this and his feelings. He may hate her or want to spend time with that family. You have had the courage to walk back through your past and face the good, the bad and the ugly and embrace it as a PART of you. Hold his hand and walk back with him the way you have helped so many. This IS your selfless road to walk with him and to help him be a whole person that BELONGS. It will change YOU. I’ll be praying that both your hearts will be healed from it.
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